Setting The Standards

i have a confession to make. ixxie is on a medication given to children for 'attention deficit hyperactive disorder' called aderall. personally i think this is all bullshit. i think its a copout for parents & teachers that won't make a child sit down & listen. yes, i agree there are children that have disorders but these days it seems like every child is being diagnosed with this shit. thats what i think is the bullshit. (just like 10 years ago all of a sudden every child had to have tubes put in their ears because they had some kind of an ear malfunction.) i think this is the doctors way of exploiting the insurance companies & people out of money. they convince parents that its not them or the teachers that are at fault, so its ok to put them on medication.
we as parents (or in my case, grandparents) aren't supposed to spank our children anymore. we are supposed to teach them politically correct ways of disciplining incorrect actions. i'm all for discipline but i still believe that if a kid needs an ass busting they should get an ass busting. thats how i raised my son & he turned out fine. if it works why fix it? and yes, again, i agree some children are abused but, not every child that gets spanked is being abused. just for the record when my son did something that deserved a spanking we sat down & discussed what he did wrong & why it warranted a spanking. for those of you that do not agree with this i'd like to tell you up front, in most cases, i allowed my son to choose his own form of punishment. it worked for me, it worked for my son & if works again, why fix it? i know i sound like i'm rambling but i want everyone to understand that i was not an unreasonable parent & most certainly am not an unreasonable grandparent. i'm pretty fucking normal even if i do say so myself. this is coming from a woman who, as a child, was spanked with a quarter inch wide leather belt on a bare ass. it felt like a whip being used on my ass. there were times i had raised welts that bled from the spankings i received. i know abuse personally.
i'm out of ixxies meds. before anyone gets all bent out of shape over this, she has an appointment to see her doctor for more meds but thats a month down the road. shes convinced she has to have this medicine to function normally. when she doesn't get her medicine she shows her ass like you would not believe. she throws tantrums, she yells, she screams, she won't sleep or eat, she talks back, she cries for no reason, she fights with the other kids & takes toys from them, she smacks them, pushes them down & like i said, just generally shows her ass. shes an attention hound is what all this boils down to & if its not about her she isn't a happy kid. shes like this because her mother will not discipline her. in any shape, form or fashion. honeys way of dealing with her children is to tell them to get out of her face, go to another room & leave her alone. (if you ever heard her yell this at them you would agree this is a form of abuse) i hate the way she handles her children but it explains why all her children are fucked up.
now my confession: i put a box of nerds in ixxies medicine bottle & thats what i've been dropping down her throat every weekend. do you want to know the results? shes more normal than i've ever seen her. the medicine she takes makes her moody. one minute she'll be fine & the next she'll be mad about something. she can be sitting alone & all of a sudden her mood changes. no motivation needed. i hate the medicines effect on her. so, i let her believe shes getting her medicine to make her happy without all the side effects.
i'm not lying to her. i've never verbally said i was giving her medicine. i just grab the bottle every morning & tell her to open wide. she takes them without question & shes more fine than ever. i did this originally just to test my theory. hubby thought i shouldn't do it but after seeing the difference it made, he beats me to the medicine bottle every day.
so bullshit or not? you decide. tell me what you would have done differently. but i love comments. please, tell me something even if i suck.
better go. tomorrow is another day to make another dime.
later.